The Beauty & Mundane Nature of Single hood

“Why are you single?”

A question I’m asked often, drawn from generations of perceived obligation and the illusion that a partner can complete you. It’s a question laden with curiosity… sometimes ignorance, but mostly concern.

We view singlehood as a path not consciously chosen, so I felt it necessary to mention why I currently opt for singlehood over partnership.

  • Single hood is empowering
  • I value my independence, space and individualism.
  • I can focus on my personal pursuits without appeasing or worrying about someone else.
  • I view relationships as a bonus not a priority.
  • I like who I am when I’m single.
  • I haven’t met someone recently whose ‘crazy’ resonates with mine.
  • I can live by my own standards and don’t need to put up with someone else.
  • I have minimal longing to be in a relationship.
  • There are a lot of things I want to do in my life, and they don’t require a partner.
  • Overall I feel we are neither better single nor in a relationship. We should simply appreciate our current states for what they are.

I conclude by quoting Søren Kierkegaard

Kierkegaard

“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way….”