“Why are you single?”
A question I’m asked often, drawn from generations of perceived obligation and the illusion that a partner can complete you. It’s a question laden with curiosity… sometimes ignorance, but mostly concern.
We view singlehood as a path not consciously chosen, so I felt it necessary to mention why I currently opt for singlehood over partnership.
- Single hood is empowering
- I value my independence, space and individualism.
- I can focus on my personal pursuits without appeasing or worrying about someone else.
- I view relationships as a bonus not a priority.
- I like who I am when I’m single.
- I haven’t met someone recently whose ‘crazy’ resonates with mine.
- I can live by my own standards and don’t need to put up with someone else.
- I have minimal longing to be in a relationship.
- There are a lot of things I want to do in my life, and they don’t require a partner.
- Overall I feel we are neither better single nor in a relationship. We should simply appreciate our current states for what they are.
I conclude by quoting Søren Kierkegaard
“Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way….”
