To believe that others are horrible (or treat me horribly) is not a fun world to be in.
To believe I’m horrible and a piece of shit is not a fun world to be in.
A much better narrative, is to know we all have attachment insecurities, micro reactions, quick traumas that are triggered and stories that are internalised which, compel us to get angry and feel hurt.
To acknowledge that both people started the process of wanting to love and be loved is a truer more accurate narrative.
90% spoken by Dr. Kirk Honda, Psychology in Settle Podcast
Episode “Therapist with Disorganised Attachment”
10% me attempting to piece it together